10 Best Songs to Get Stuck in Someone’s Head

They say the reason songs get stuck in our heads is because we can’t finish them. That the mere fact that we can only remember a few words, or a line, from the song keeps our brains on a permanent loop until we latch on to something else.

As kids, my sisters and I would get songs stuck in each other’s heads while we waited for the bus to take us home from the water park. The enjoyment I got out of being so annoying didn’t evaporate once I reached adulthood. Instead, it’s now inflicted on my husband. Here are my favorites:

  1. Mister Rogers theme song
  2. Star Spangled Banner
  3. Theme Song to Doc McStuffins (really, any cartoon on Disney Jr.)
  4. “1234” by Feist (“One, two, three, four/ Tell me that you love me more…)
  5. “Zip-a-dee-doo-dah” from Song of the South
  6. Sesame Street theme song (thanks to the birth of my toddler, I’ve added children’s songs to my list)
  7. “God Bless the USA” by Lee Greenwood
  8. “Sweet Caroline” by Neil Diamond
  9. “Sisters” from White Christmas
  10. “It’s a Small World” by Richard M. Sherman & Robert B. Sherman

I like to think that getting a song stuck in someone’s head is the gift that keeps on giving.

So, if you’re in the mood to be giving (or annoying) feel free to use this list. You just might thank me even if no one else will.

Fun Fact #825: My Parents Don’t Know Everything

And sadly, neither do I.

Could you imagine being in your 20’s and having a child that looks at you like you’re the oracle for every ounce of knowledge known to man? Actually, forget about 20’s. What about your 30’s or even your 40’s? No, thank you.

Oh wait.

I am in my 30’s with a young child that looks at me like I know everything. (Which, if you’re talking to my husband, please remind him that I do, in fact, know everything. Thank you very much.)

Nothing quite reminds you of how you don’t have anything figured out like a pair of big blue eyes staring up at you, asking you why something exists, or why something happened. And the moment they find out you’re just making things up as you go along? *mind blown*

I still remember the day I realized my mom didn’t know everything. Oddly enough, it was over a russet potato.

My family operates on a few things: soda, carbs, starch, and guilt. Growing up, baked potatoes were a staple as a weekend snack, sometimes enjoyed in the middle of the night while watching SNL. Obviously, actually baking the potato was a tad too time consuming, so we opted for the microwave. Each time I was about to pop one in the microwave (that was big enough to cook a turkey, I kid you not), I’d ask my mom how long I should put it in for. She always gave me a time, and I went on my merry way enjoying my lunch.

Then one day, she asked me what I thought the cooking time should be.

Uh, what? Excuse me? I don’t know these things; I’m a child! Gosh!

So, I offered up what I thought would be sufficient, and she told me to try it. It was at that time it dawned on me that she had been guessing the whole time. THE WHOLE TIME. You’d think this would have been the start of many years of me questioning everything she told me, but it wasn’t. Although, I was significantly more suspicious of adults from that point on. (My uncle once told me not to drink coffee because it will put hair on my chest. Being Italian, I was hairy enough and didn’t want to take any chances. Could you imagine if I had I gotten that advice after The Potato Incident? Who knows how hairy I’d be by now.)

Looking back on my childhood, and at the ages my parents were during times of great turmoil for our family, I can only imagine the heartache and stress they were feeling. My parents were in their late 20’s, early 30’s when they divorced and remarried other people. I look back now at how little I knew in my 20’s, and can only imagine how hard it was to lose one family, form a new one, all while having these little faces at you thinking you know everything and will make it all okay.

As my daughter grows up, I’m hoping the day she realizes I don’t know half the things she expects me to won’t be seared into her memory (or if it is, I hope it’s a really funny story). When I look at my own parents now, it is from the perspective of someone that has learned that we are all human and we are all doing the best we can in any given moment. I wasn’t sure I could love my parents more than I already do, but realizing that they too are just human makes me love them even more.

 

Finding Your Tribe

I spend my Saturday mornings in group therapy. There is something to be said about surrounding yourself with people that understand where you’ve been and don’t expect anything from you. They don’t expect a brave face and a stiff upper lip. They envelope you in love and light when they can see you’ve exposed the rawest part of your being. You grieve together, and cry together. You support each other, and celebrate wins and milestones. For one hour, you are connected to something bigger than yourself.

At the expense of labeling myself as old fashioned, as time goes on and as we become more dependent on technology, I feel as though we become increasingly divided. We forget what it means to look into someone’s eyes and truly listen and connect. We lose our ability to say, “I see you, I hear you, I feel you.” We feel more alone and begin to believe we are the only ones’ suffering.

Clearly, that’s an absolute lie.

We aren’t alone. We are surrounded by people that are more like us than not. We just have to open our eyes and look.

I call this, “finding your people.” My people enjoy inappropriate humor, and laughing so hard we’re wheezing. My people see the beauty in a carefully organized bookshelf, and panic when confronted with abstract artwork. My people enjoy coming together with new and old friends, and laughing at one another’s expense. My people understand my neurosis and might even share a few of them. These are my people.

I suggest finding your people, if only to breathe fresh air into your life. Reach out, be brave, be vulnerable, and see that you are in fact, surrounded by friends. You are surrounded by your people.

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The Audacious B’s 10 Principles of Adulthood

There are times where I am talking to a group of people and someone will say something so outlandish that I have what I call an “out of body moment.” I stand there in awe at what I just heard, and often wonder how they’ve made it this far in life. It’s because of these conversations I’ve come up with a short list of principles of adulthood. In all reality, being an  adult doesn’t have to be hard unless you want it to be.

  • Stop blaming others for your situation.

Each person has memories that give them something to talk about in therapy. It’s damn near a rite of passage. But at the same time, you get to a point where you just need to let the baggage go. Take accountability for your own crap and either fix it or stop whining about it.

  • Understand and accept that each person you know is making it up as they go along.

No one has their life figured out, nor does anyone have their shit together. We just like to pretend we do. And guess what? This goes for our parents too.

  • The only one that gets in the way is you.

I mean, yeah you could be incarcerated, so there’s that barrier, but beyond that, the possibilities are endless. Especially if you are willing to put in the work and get out of your own way.

  • There is nothing in life that can’t be fixed by getting a Slurpee.

This might just be in my family, but the fact remains the same. Bad day at school? Snag a Slurpee. Nursing a broken heart? Grab a Slurpee and head to Grandma’s house. And grab her a Slurpee too while you’re at it. Grandma needs her fix.

  • Most people don’t have things just handed to them. They worked hard for them, and made sure when the opportunity came, they were ready for it.

You want the big house, cool car, nice boat for the lake? Get out there and bust your butt.

  • Stop thinking the world revolves around you.

“World” could even mean your close friends and family. Life’s too​ short to be held hostage to anyone’s insecurities, even yours.

  • For the love of Pete, put your cart in the cart corral at the store.

You know that’s where it goes. You know being lazy and leaving it in the stall next to you creates the opportunity to damage someone else’s car. You know better, so do better.

  • Just because someone has different beliefs than you, both religious and political, it doesn’t make them a horrible, miserable, misguided person.

Variety is the spice of life, and that includes those that challenge our beliefs. An examined life is a good life.

  • Comparing yourself to others can make for a pretty miserable existence.

While there are times it can be the catalyst for positive change, more often than not it makes us feel like garbage. Remember, Facebook is the highlight reel of life. It does not accurately reflect anyone’s life. It is carefully curated to show only how awesome people are, and does not include bad hair days, crappy jobs, broken down cars, incarcerated children, etc. If you are lucky enough to have FB friends that post real life stuff, hold on to them. They are freaking gold.

  • There​ actually aren’t any rules for adulthood, and a timeline doesn’t exist either.

In your late 30s, going to a junior college? Good! Did you graduate high school five years ago and now all your classmates are married, pregnant, and earning a six-figure salary? Good for them! I think when we are just starting out on this trip of adulthood we think there is a “right way” life is lived, and some magical timeline that we are all supposed to follow. Guess what? There isn’t. You want to know what is magical? Your own timeline, filled with your own dreams and ambitions. Don’t waste time looking at others. Focus on your path and kick some butt.

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