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Guest Post – Igniting the Positive with Stacey Bice

I’ve been lucky to be friends with Stacey for many years, and if there was one word I could use to describe her it would be “positive.” Regardless of the circumstance, she finds the silver lining, making everyone smile and feel better along the way. She is also incredibly funny, and on more than one occasion her humor has caught me off guard and kept me laughing for hours.

Each Monday Stacey posts a “Magnificent Monday Message” on Facebook, and I think her message is a perfect fit for my favorite topic of self-care. So, I reached out and asked Stacey if she wanted to contribute to The Audacious B, giving us her top recommendations on how to tap into positive thinking.

Take it away, Stac!

We all have moments of negative thinking and self talk. Here are a few ways we can be more positive in our thinking.

  • Only use positive words when talking – when you speak with others, only use positive words. Omit negative words, such as “don’t”, “can’t”, “not”, “won’t”, and “no.” Just take one day and jot down a mark every time you find yourself saying something negative. Count the marks at the end of the day and the next day try to have at least that many positives.
  • Fill your mind with positive thoughts – Constantly look for things to be positive about. Find things you like about yourself, other people, and your life. The more you focus on the positive, the easier it will be to think positive thoughts. At night, just as I am falling asleep I tell my husband 3 things that I felt were positive in my day.
  • Celebrate – Share your successes with others. Celebrate everything that happens in your life. No matter how big or small it is, celebrate it. Remember to also celebrate the successes of others too.  Remember to celebrate it not to boost about it.
  • Smile – There are days when smiling is the farthest thought from your mind, but just the simple act of smiling puts you into a more positive mind set. Smile whenever you see yourself in the mirror. Smile when you see others. Smile for no reason at all.
  • Make peace with the past – Do you think about moments in your past where you felt embarrassed, scared or angry? Do you relive events wishing you could have done things differently? Your emotions are connected to your thoughts. If you change your thoughts, your emotions with change. Let go of the past. We can’t do anything to change it. But we can take charge of our present and our future because that is where our power lies.
  • Gratitude – Be grateful for your life. Keep an eye out for thing to be grateful for – a sunset, a smile from a stranger, a good commute…Before long, those little things will become bigger things. When we show gratitude, it opens us up to receiving more great things in our lives.

“Positive thinking evokes… more energy, more initiative, more HAPPINESS!”

Many Blessings,

Stacey M. Bice

Certified “Positive” Life Coach

If you’re  in the market for a life coach, I recommend getting in touch with Stacey. You can reach her directly at 435*830*7282, or via her website, www.ignitethepositive.com .

Look on the Bright Side of Life… Ha! Just Kidding!

I love me some quotes. I’d even go so far as to say that I hoard quotes like a fat kid hoards Twinkies. I love being inspired and I love being challenged.

But, there are days.

Days where I wake up and the first thought I have is, “FML.” I drag my sorry butt to the bathroom to get ready and I curse my alarm for being the dick it is.  Perhaps these are the days where I’m supposed to really love quotes, and lean on them in an effort to turn my attitude around? Eh, no thanks.

Instead, I look at positive quotes and think to myself, “Oh yeah?  Well, here’s a dose of real life, jerk.”

  • Be yourself. No one else is qualified.

Pretty sure that’s a lie. According to my recent job search, there are tons more people qualified.

  • Laughter is a powerful way to tap positive emotions. – Norman Cousins

 Laughter? Really? I always thought punching someone in the throat when they have pissed you off was the way to tap positive emotions.  Guess I’ve had that wrong.

  • Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love. A gift to that person. A beautiful thing. – Mother Teresa

What if you’re smiling at someone while you while you run them over with a car?  Is that really considered love?

  • There is no wealth but life. – John Ruskin

I’m pretty sure this quote is mostly meant for those people who make more money than they know what to do with, and didn’t grow up on government cheese and Tang.

  • Beauty is what gives you joy. – Hugh Nibley

What if watching people fall on the ice is what gives me joy? I mean, I guess I can see the beauty in that.

  • Always be on the lookout for the presence of wonder. – E.B. White

As I get older and wiser, I’m always experiencing wonder.  I wonder why my 2 year old won’t let me use the restroom alone. I wonder why it seems like I woke up fat, so why shouldn’t I be able to wake up skinny? I wonder why I went grey in my 20’s. I wonder how many pounds I’m going to gain by simply looking at that slice of pizza.

  • Don’t be afraid to be amazing. – Andy Offutt Irwin

Oh, I’m not afraid to be amazing.  Amazing is easy.  It’s trying not to be awkward that is hard.

  • Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. – Chinese Proverb

If this is the case, I am royally screwed.  Tension is what gives me my winning personality!

I think I’m the only person that needs to read a book or take a class to learn how to relax.

  • Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. – Victor Borge

Just regular old laughter?  How about awkward laughter due to inappropriate humor?  That has always seemed to work for me.

  • Success is following the patters of life one enjoys most. – Al Capp

I’m pretty sure spending my days on the sofa eating popcorn and watching TNT every day is not the recipe for success. Neither is living with your mom for all but five years of your life, and not having a decent job in over 30 years.  Just ask my uncle.

  • Balance is beautiful. – Miyoko Ohno

I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume she doesn’t mean a Slurpee in each hand.  Or a rum and Coke.  Ooh, maybe she means a Slurpee in one hand a rum and Coke in the other!  That is the type of balance I can get behind.

  • Change before you have to. – Jack Welch

Like, my underwear? My winning personality? Where are we going here, Jack?

  • May you live all the days of your life. – Jonathan Swift

If someone said this to me, my first question would be to ask if they are making a threat.

  • Always make new mistakes! – Esther Dyson

Finally, a quote I can get behind! Even on my worst days, I can do this without trying. Remind me to tell you the story about the time I accidentally told my step-mom her people breed like rats instead of like rabbits.  That was an “awesome” moment.

 

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